I don't have a very large wardrobe, particularly compared to some people I know, but what I have works for me. Plus I'd much rather have a handful of items that make me really happy, rather than just clothes for the sake of clothing.
I was not raised this way. My Mom went with the "more is better" theory, and also had a huge walk in closet and rarely parted with anything. She also alternated everything in her closet twice a year, in the spring to remove all her fall and winter clothes and replace them with spring and summer, and again in the fall to switch back. There was no "I could wear this layered or with a sweater." Her clothing fit into very defined categories and there was no straying from them. She kept the "other season" clothing in other closets, or neatly folded in multiple storage containers, labeled and stored in the basement, not to be looked at until the next biannual closet reorganization.
She's always shocked that all my clothes fit in half of a double closet with room to spare. "Where's the rest of your clothes?" That's it, Mom. How much could I possibly need? "But what if you need to go to a funeral?" There's plenty of black in my closet. "What about a wedding?" I'll add some jewelry to one of my black dresses. She stressed the importance of having clothes for specific events, but whenever she had to go somewhere, somehow she never had anything appropriate to wear! So maybe part of my clothing dilemma has been passed down. Is there a gene for that?
I don't really wear pants. I did buy a pair of jeans in September, the first pair I've owned in more years than I can remember, since family members teased me endlessly for showing up to a baseball game in a maxi dress and flats. I'm a dress / skirt person, knee length in the warm months and ankle length in the cold, with nice thick cotton tights.
I do tend to wear more t shirts than button down shirts, but that's usually because I have trouble finding a good fit in button downs. My t shirts, btw, are mostly hanging up in the pic below but hard to see as they're all black. I have a couple others that are mostly worn as pjs, which are in a drawer. I did recently purchase THREE button down shirts, but all are sheer and I plan to wear them over a cami or lightweight shirt and not necessarily buttoned.
I try to remove one article of clothing for each new item I buy. This isn't as hard as it sounds, because there's always something that I've grown tired of, or have worn a few times and decided it's not the best fit, or is just starting to get old and faded. But as I was hanging up my three new shirts I realized my wardrobe isn't the most 'Mom friendly' wardrobe. That's not to say I have a problem with what other moms are wearing, exactly the opposite, I sometimes find myself in a situation where I don't have anything casual enough to blend in with everyone else.
If I volunteer to do something at school, I'm the mom who shows up in a dress and 4" heels. It's not because I'm trying to look glamorous to sell plants or decorate a bulletin board, it's just because I don't own those casual clothes that every other mom seems to have. And even when I try these things on in stores, they never look or feel right. Maybe it's too many years of dressing one way that makes me have a hard time accepting another. But there's definitely times I wish I could throw on a pair of khakis and a polo shirt and go set up for the book fair or chaperone the field trip to the pond. My pair of jeans was a start, but after wearing them twice to baseball games, I haven't worn them since. They're just not me.
Look how colorful my closet has become over the years! All my dresses on the right, long skirts, then knee length skirts on the top. The bottom rack are shirts and some light jackets. This is my year round wardrobe, I don't have another closet somewhere full of clothes for some other season. I just add layers, select a longer length, or a heavier material if it's cold.
I was recently reminded that I shouldn't judge a person who goes out wearing more casual clothing like pajamas to do their shopping, so I find it a bit odd that I get more than my fair share of raised eyebrows when I'm at the grocery store wearing what's comfortable for me. Perhaps I need to give the rolled eyeballers a friendly reminder that they shouldn't judge me based on my clothing either.
I don't wear tight or overtly sexy items, I don't wear anything too short (at the knee is the shortest I will wear, not even above the knee), and I know what shapes work for my figure. I'm probably the only female under the age of 80 who has on a camisole, slip or pettipants, and pantyhose or tights on a daily basis. Don't assume I'm a whore or think I'm a princess because I enjoy putting on a dress and heels. And I sure as hell am not out to try and steal your husband; thanks, I've got my own. I dress this way because it makes me happy, and it's just who I am. Perhaps my choice of fabric/patterns is a bit unconventional, but I love my clothes, and I hope you love yours and they bring you as much joy as mine bring me.
You know, if I could run around in a ballgown and tiara, I would, and have been known to do so on occasion.
Thanks for reading!